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Thanks Ellen for the gentle reminders, I related to so much in this. I started to breathe a little more calmly as I was reading your commitments to gentleness.

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The guilt at not being productive is such a hard one to unlearn. You’re so right about needing to lean into being gentler on ourselves though.

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The gentleness thing sounds positive and I hope it helps. I hate that good people suffer like this and get tortured by their own minds. It infuriates me that there are so many cunts out there (apols for c-bombing but they really are), who go about causing havoc and misery to so many people, yet never seem afflicted by any kind of difficult mental anguish. I feel certain you *are* a good person, and not just because you can write well about these things; and it is SO unfair that your brain keeps trying to persuade you otherwise. Like yes, haters gonna hate, but having your own personal hater inside your actual freaking head repeatedly telling you how much you suck is not something you should have to put up with, why can't those hater thoughts get inside someone's head who actually deserves it??

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